This reflects two dimensions that attachment research has studied for decades — how much closeness and reassurance you tend to look for in relationships, and how comfortable you are relying on someone else, or having them rely on you. That framework traces back to the foundational work of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth; what follows applies it in a shorter, plain-language form.
Answer based on how you generally are in close relationships — romantic, co-parenting, or otherwise. No result here is a label that sticks. It's a broad pattern, and broad patterns are exactly what a quiz like this can responsibly catch — the specific, personal reasons behind your pattern are what Lifestyle Analysis explores directly, one on one, if you decide to go further.
Your pattern
Secure
You tend to be comfortable with both closeness and independence — able to rely on people without losing yourself, and able to be relied on without feeling boxed in. That doesn't mean your relationships are effortless; it means you're working from a steady foundation. Even from here, most people find real value in understanding the specific, personal logic behind their choices — that's what Lifestyle Analysis looks at, past the broad category.
Your pattern
Anxious
You tend to feel relationships deeply, and closeness matters a lot to you — sometimes to the point of worrying whether the other person feels it too. Reassurance helps in the moment, but the pattern underneath it is almost always more specific and more personal than "anxious" as a category can capture. This often shows up in how a relationship is evaluated day to day, and in how conflict gets handled under pressure — especially when kids and co-parenting are involved.
Your pattern
Avoidant
You tend to value independence, and closeness that comes on fast or asks for a lot can feel uncomfortable. That's often mistaken for not caring — usually it's closer to the opposite, just guarded. Understanding where that guardedness actually comes from tends to matter more for how a relationship holds up over time than trying to override it.
Your pattern
Fearful-Avoidant
You tend to want closeness and feel uneasy about it at the same time — pulled toward connection, then pulled back once it gets real. That push-pull can be exhausting to live inside of, and it often connects to patterns that show up elsewhere too, including how people cope under stress and how intimacy gets navigated.
Where you landed, in more detail